The Thrilling Tales of Cah Cah

Anecdote and commentary driven blog about everything from awkward moments in my life and observational humor, to thoughts and feelings on social issues.

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Cah Cah’s Tips For Men Who Want To Smell Nice (if you wear body spray, this one is for you.)

OK, so I don’t know about you, but I have a very fine sense of smell, to the point where strong scents can really irritate me. Cause headaches, even. Another thing I don’t know, is if you’ve ever been to England. I have. I am. And Oh. My. God(!) do the men here love their body spray. I know, it must come as a shock if you’ve ever encountered the stuff, but never lived anywhere that so many guys actually use it. It’s incomprehensible to me why anyone would wear this caricature of perfume, but they do, and bucketloads of it. I don’t know exactly how to describe or sufficiently explain my aversion to the stuff, so I’ll let this image do it for me:

 

Bye Felipé!

Bye Felipé!

 

 

I am not alone by any means. I’ve talked to so many women who feel the same way. Let me say before we get the “but women also..” men here: I am aware that many women overspray as well. They shower themselves with their DKNY Red Delicious or Britney Spears: Fantasy (this is just what I imagine the overspraying girls wear, sorry, I’m not sorry), and it’s almost just as bad. The difference between the two, is that in the case of many women, the scent itself at least has the redeeming quality that it’s nice, or at the very least decent. This is not the case of Axe body spray, or any other similar body spray I’ve ever encountered. They smell as if they’ve been developed by men who sat around a table and went “OK men, let’s make a manly smelling man scent, so that we can maningly smell manly and shit”, because there is no way any woman with an ounce of good taste has smelled that and gone “You know what? Fuck yeah!”.

 

“But Cah Cah, how can I up my ‘scentualness’?”

 

Fret not, I have written down some tips for those you who want to go from chav to suave, smellwise, so without further ado I present to you:

 

Cah Cah’s tips for men who want to smell nice:


1. Buy a nice cologne (something musky and sexy, like Pi by Givenchy)

 

Givenchy-Pi logo

Wear it, and stare at men who use body spray like that. Now you know better.

I was smelling this at a perfume shop once, and the young man who worked there said “Are you buying this for a boyfriend? That is more of a mature man’s smell. Well suited for older gentleman.”, so I just smiled nastily with a really dirty look in my eyes as if to indicate I was sleeping with someone really old. He looked uncomfortable, and I was left alone. Win-win.

 

Probably what the poor guy imagined was going on.

Probably what the poor guy imagined was going on.

 


2. Apply sparingly, so that women can only smell it if they get close enough.

 

Very nice, one gentle spritz is enough.

Very nice, one gentle spritz is enough.

 

By close enough, I mean so close that only from there should it ever be acceptable to smell a person. Your scent shouldn’t fill up an entire room and linger when you leave (that is true even if you smell nice). You’re a person, not Fabreze.

 

For fuck sake, John.

For fuck’s sake, John.


3. Flirt with a woman you find attractive, and at some point lean in say something to her. Only at this point should she be able to smell musky sex.

 

This is sexy.

This is sexy.

When a guy leans in, and you just catch a whiff of his scent. Now that’s hot.


5. Watch her try to hide her bodily reactions.

 

He was actually just hitting her with his scent.

He was actually just hitting her with his scent.

 

That hot.

 

6. Fuck bitches.

 

See how nice he smells?

See how nice he smells?

 

I promise it will improve your game!

 

7. Throw anything labeled “Axe” and/or “body spray” so far away, that even if found, there is no possible way to ever connect it to you.

 

I'm talking Hercules-throwing-the-titans-into-space-where-they-explode kind of throwing.

I’m talking Hercules-throwing-the-titans-into-space-where-they-explode kind of throwing.

 

Seriously, just get rid of it.

 

There you have it! Enjoy smelling nice and notice how people don’t squint their eyes an wiggle their noses constantly when you’re around. If you enjoyed this post, or if you want to tell someone that they stink in a passive-aggresive way, please like and share this with everyone, especially the Smelly Cats.

 

 

Yours,

 

 

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The 10 Commandments Created Western Civilization

Happy New Year! New year, new blog post! I know it’s been a while, so let’s stop wasting time and get straight down to the nitty gritty (and witty (I hope))!

 

Without God, we’d all rape and kill each other, then lie to our parents about it afterwards, before stealing their credit cards so we can buy a better car than our neighbor has, so we can seduce their spouse. At least, that appears to be the message of this video:

 

 

Certain quotes that stand out:

 

“If it isn’t God who declares murder wrong, murder isn’t wrong.”

 

The kind of dogmatic sheep mentality religion inspires that makes it not only unnecessary but downright dangerous. He wasn’t trying to argue that murder isn’t wrong, but rather to demonstrate that it’s only the power of God’s authority that decides that irrefutably (which is an equally scary belief, in my opinion).

 

What the 10 commandments might as well have said

What the 10 commandments might as well have said

 

 

“Without God, all morals are just personal opinions and beliefs.”

 

Yes, that is correct. That is exactly what morals are. Luckily, most people have empathy enough to agree that you shouldn’t kill, rape, or otherwise inflict physical, mental, and emotional harm on others. That you shouldn’t take what isn’t yours, or find glory in anything you have to cheat your way to. We’d all like a world where police and armies weren’t necessary, where people didn’t lie, and where all parents were intelligent enough that their kids should (and would) respect their opinions, but such a world is based on the naive belief that all people are good and some decide to be bad. Sure, many people who are born without a psychosis do really bad things, but taking those out of the equation, the amount of psychoses and personality disorders that can make people act in “immoral” ways are many, and these people do not adhere to the morals of anyone, man or god, so even if WE ALL decided to believe in and obey the laws of a god or goddess, these people would still only do so if it suited their purpose. And religious people, who believe that the 10 commandments come from God still don’t follow all of them all the time. Because they are human.

 

He had Spoken the Truth.

He has Spoken the Truth.

 

“Blablabla taking credit for the great things done by Western civilization.”

 

Stop this “perfect world” naivety, stop trying to take credit for people thinking murder is wrong, stop taking credit for human rights, the abolishment of slavery, ESPECIALLY stop taking credit for equal rights between the sexes when your desert religions, the Abrahamic religions, have done worse things for women than any other ideological concept in history. Just stop existing. Please.

 

Western civilization meets the 10 commandments

Western civilization meets the 10 commandments

 

OK, rant over. Sorry it’s been so long since my last post, guys. I’ll try to get back into writing more again. Maybe that will be my New Year’s resolution. As usual, please like and share this if it entertained, resonated, completely baffled, mummified… you. I love you for reading.

 

Yours,

 

me1.2

The Insanely Tough Life of The Straight, White Male

Hello dear readers! It’s been a while, I know. Let’s get to it!

 

if the Internet is to be believed, there is apparently no group of people as misunderstood, as targeted, as unfairly treated, and hated as straight, white males. Every article I ever read about people with actual issues, is always full of comments from straight, white males sharing their individual incident stories to try to devalue the very real, daily struggles that other people with real problems have. It’s sickening to read, but I guess it’s to be expected, living in a world where straight, white men are coddled not only by their mothers and peers, but society in general. This is not to say that straight, white males can’t come from horrible backgrounds, of course not, however, denying the inherent privilege in being a straigt, white male because you had a bad life is also wrong. Acknowledging  privilege is acknowledging that no matter how bad your life is, it would probably be worse without those genetically given advantages. Now that we’ve established that I’m not saying that straight, white males can’t have horrible lives, let’s move on.

 

Men crying over sexism is like white people crying over racism (on behalf of themselves, mind you). It’s like heterosexuals crying over being sexually discriminated against. When religious people start crying over their “rights” being deemed less important (in regards to marriage equality laws for example). No one (intelligent) is buying it. Reading articles about women who’ve been harassed, there are always men all over the comment section having some sort of explanation ready for why these women’s feelings are invalid. Reading articles about racism, there are always white people (men, mostly) offering explanations as to how they experience “racism” at the hands of other “races”. Sorry dude, but when you can name and recall all of the specific incidences, that’s not what it is. Gender discrimination and racism are ways of life for the people suffering under them. They’re not something that happens rarely enough for examples to stand out. It’s everywhere, all the time. If you want someone to be sympathetic towards the struggles of being a white, heterosexual male, go talk to your mom. Do the rest of us a favour and acknowledge your white, heterosexual, able-bodied privilege, and stop invalidating the very real suffering of other people by telling stories about that one black, disabled, lesbian who was rude, in a way that propagates the idea that being a white, heterosexual, able-bodied man is anything but being born with a silver spoon (when it comes to societal privilege). You’re welcome.

 

Flawless, straight white male logic. Women go to war, so husbands should be allowed to beat their wives. Makes perfect sense.

Flawless, straight white male logic. Women go to war, so husbands should be allowed to beat their wives. Makes perfect sense.

 

On a different – but related – note: reading through the comment section of Bill Cosby rape allegation articles, one thing becomes very apparent: in cases of rape, women are to be blamed. One thought the woman could have prevented oral sex from taking place had she only thought to use her teeth, and another seemed to think that since they willingly accepted alcohol from him they were obviously party hoes (which apparently means it’s totally fine to rape them).

We all know women should know better than to accept drinks from men, because that’s how you get raped, yet at the same time how dare we think all men are creepy rapists? It’s not just “feminazis” that have double standards, Mr Patriarchy. We’re here saying men should be held accountable for raping us, while you insist it’s our own fault for accepting alcohol from men, yet demean us for our “feminazi” ways when we are suspicious of men in general because “all men aren’t rapists”. We can’t win.

“What could you have done differently..” is a question rape victims are often asked. Why don’t we ask the families of murder victims what they think their children/siblings/parents could have done to avoid being murdered? Oh right, because it’s bullshit.

 

I realize this post is a bit all over the place, but so am I. You know, it comes with being a man-hating feminazi, or whatever it is weak men like to label women who don’t want to be an extension of them. If you’d like to read a great article about why being against sexism isn’t the same as being anti-men, here’s a link. Here’s an excerpt:

 

“Feminism is about the equality of all genders, and conscious steps should be taken to actively include all genders.. ..yet repeatedly insisting that failing to prioritize men effectively invalidates your entire perspective on sexism and feminism paradoxically proves why we need to battle sexism and advocate feminism in the first place: the belief and sense of entitlement that everything should be about men first and foremost, all the time!”

 

If you liked my blog post, show it by pressing the round icon up top, or the square icon down below! Let’s end today’s blog post with one of my favourite quotes from a straight, white male:

 

“If a woman has (the right to an abortion), why shouldn’t a man be free to use his superior strength to force himself on a woman? At least the rapist’s pursuit of sexual freedom doesn’t result in anyone’s death.” – Maine State Representative Lawrence Lockman

 

Yours,

 

me1.2

The Problem With “Opinions” And Freedom Of Speech

If you consider yourself reasonably intelligent and have ever had to have an argument with the lesser fortunate, you’ve no doubt felt frustration with idiots who cling to their “right” to their “opinions”. Often they will even try to guilt you into letting go of the argument (undoubtedly better supported by evidence in your favour) by saying something along the lines of “Let’s just agree to disagree” or “You have the right to believe as you do, why can’t you respect my “right” to do the same”. Sound familiar? There are several problems with this way of thinking, and I think it’s about time we stop being politically correct and just address them at their core. Now, I’m not going to say that freedom of speech should be eradicated or that people should stop having opinions. I’m simply saying let’s IQ test people before we let them speak. Kidding… not really.

 

But it's not fine, though.

But it’s not fine, though.

 

All opinions are not equal in value or relevance (not even close)

For reasons unknown to me, people seem to be under the impression that their opinions are relevant, irrespective of what they base them on. This might be due to them basing their opinions on something which – in the context of the topic of discussion – holds no innate value (i.e. using religion to argue against science), or it may be due to their opinions being based solely on what they’ve been spoon fed as children, never bothering to explore greater knowledge as adults, or perhaps something entirely different. Just about any area of science is a great example of people having opinions about things that they have no understanding of, especially – you guessed it – evolution! There is this ludicrous idea among anti-evolutionists (who typically are not educated in biology at all, and whose opinions on evolution always demonstrate how little they actually know and understand about the process “If I’m a monkey, why can’t I have babies with chimpanzees) that it is “only” a theory. They are not entirely incorrect. Evolution is indeed a theory, but a scientific theory doesn’t mean what the name implies, and therein lies the first misconception. Contrary to what some these anti-evolutionists might claim (“there is insufficient evidence to prove..”), there is evidence by the thousands, and indeed evolution is as much a “fact” as gravity.  Only a fool would ignore the evidence. Unfortunately, we live in a world where fools are hardly a rarity. That, however, is only part of the problem. The other part is what we teach our children. The way current school systems work, we don’t teach scientific thinking before university level. We don’t teach adequate independent, critical thinking to our young. We don’t teach them to follow the evidence. We don’t teach them how to build solid arguments (from the base up). If they aren’t taught these things, how are they supposed to know? In order to make this simple to understand, I’ve designed an ingenious, high-tech visual aid to illustrate the difference between relevant and irrelevant opinions.

Notice how the irrelevant opinion is just floating in air, because there is no basis for it.

Notice how the irrelevant opinion is just floating in air, because there is no basis for it.

This simple model can be applied to all areas of life with few alterations. If you’re having a philosophical discussion for example, much of what you’re discussing might be hypothetical, ethical etc., but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t establish a solid base for your conclusion. A solid base is never baseless personal beliefs (like religious beliefs). For example, many religious people argue that being homosexual is unnatural, yet there is no evidence to support this. In fact, all evidence is to the contrary. Homosexuality is found in many, many different lifeforms, including the mammal known as Homo sapiens sapiens. Human sexuality, however, is much more complex than just “gay” or “straight”, but that’s for another blog post. Point is, it occurs naturally in nature – it’s not unnatural. To someone whose religion says otherwise, however, it is. “God didn’t intend it to be this way, it’s an abomination! It’s not natural!”. Sure, you might believe that it’s not natural, and that might be your opinion, however (as I already pointed out) you don’t have to look very far to see that it is (if you want to look far and are adept at reading scientific literature, read one of the many published research journals on the subject)! Which brings us to the problem with the next subject in today’s headline. While it is undoubtedly one of the most important aspects of modern society, freedom of speech can also be very destructive, especially when seemingly intelligent people in power have an immense platform to propagate their baseless beliefs, influencing the minds of children and adults alike, making them hold beliefs that are ultimately detrimental to our advancement as a species, for example that evolution is “just” a theory, that being homosexual is an unnatural choice against god, and therefore they shouldn’t be afforded the same basic human rights as others, that a fetus is a person with feelings and therefore women shouldn’t be in charge of their own reproductive organs etc. It is the entitlement we feel to our beliefs and the willingness to blindly believe what we are told that validates this sort of thinking, and also enables  places like The Creatonist Museum to be established, and that allows for “abstinence only” sex education in schools to flourish. If we let go of our egos and followed evidence, these crazy concepts wouldn’t even be conceived! This also goes for every day stupid opinions: if we taught children to be evidence focused, rather than dogmatizing them with fantastical beliefs that require nothing but “faith”, we would automatically be raising them into critically thinking adults, who would base their opinions on something solid, rather than dogmatized “morals”, who wouldn’t readily believe what their power-hungry politicians spoon fed them, and who – on a smaller scale – would be less inclined to gossip, as that is nearly always based on hearsay i.e. the stupid man’s evidence.

Basically:

When we could be raising independent, critically thinking, highly intelligent, young adults, who would focus on evidence over “faith”, who would be able to make their own decisions as to when they were going to have a baby, and who wouldn’t hate other people based on their “unnatural ways”, we’re raising barely-teen parents, who think dinosaurs and humans lived at the same time (or that dinosaurs didn’t exist at all), and who love to gossip about their gay neighbours going to hell. OK, so those were two extremes, but while the former extreme is a rarity, the latter, while extreme, is disturbingly familiar, and in today’s society, both parties’ opinions are apparently equally “valid”. How does that work, exactly? Would my opinion on what would be the best treatment for someone with brain damage be thought of as equally relevant, valuable, and worthy of mention as that of a neurologist? Of course not! Why should it be any different for everyday life? What constitutes “unnatural” for religious people often holds no basis in reality. Why should opinions with no basis in evidence, only in faith, be shown any reverence in a world that only works the way it does, with planes, cars, internet, medication and everything else, because evidence based science holds up? Why should women not have complete rights over our own bodies, why shouldn’t gays be allowed to live in peace, and why shouldn’t we teach young people good sex education? Take away religious beliefs, look only at the evidence, and there is nothing left to argue against it,  This is the problem with “opinions”. This is the problem with “beliefs”. Combine baseless opinions and beliefs, with freedom of speech, a flawed and inadequate educational system,  add a democratic society, and you’re left with an open playing field for hateful people to negatively impact the lives of millions.

 

 

Great! ... wait.

Great! … wait.

 

I’m obviously not saying that freedom of speech should be eradicated. I’m not saying I have a better alternative to democratic society (or that there is one). I’m just saying there are major flaws when these concepts are used and abused when people of disturbingly low intelligence end up in positions of power. In positions where they are able to influence the lives of millions. When abortion laws are dictated by religiously blind men, who the laws will never directly affect. When scientific advancement is halted by religious morals and ethics, by philosophical ideas of what “life” is, When religious beliefs are used as an excuse to take away the rights of men and women simply because of their sexual orientation.

 

I realize there’s a touch of irony in this blog post: I’m criticizing “opinions” whilst frequently venting my own in this and other posts (well, semi-frequently, at least). When holding these opinions, me being a blogger is in itself a bit ironic, or it would be if I wasn’t so incredibly right all the time. *smug smile* *self assured shrug*

 

Me right now.

Me right now.

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Yours,

 

me1.2

The Double Standards of Sexual Imagery and Breastfeeding In Public

“SEEEEEEX!”

This is pretty much how we’re greeted if we flip through a fashion magazine, tabloid, “respectable newspaper”, or the latest #insertgenericfurniturestorename catalogue. It’s also what we see if we turn on the television, go online, leave our house, or look down while we pee. Eroticism, sex, body parts, and sensuality penetrate every aspect of our daily lives. We’re surrounded by it, we engage in it (unless we’re wearing promise rings, of course), and we use it to further every imaginable purpose, particularly to sell things. Advertising is probably the number one reason we see naked bodies and sexual innuendos everywhere. It is so common, we walk past billboards, posters, fliers, and magazine covers without even stopping to take a second glance at the shapely butt used to sell canned food or the breasts used to sell beer. We don’t even notice that everything from soda bottles to the color schemes on food wrappings are deliberately shaped in curvatures that are distinctly female in appearance. This is not to say I mind; I think the human body is beautiful, and I have no issue with being exposed to it daily. What I don’t like is the sickening double standard that coexists with our sexualized society. To illustrate what I’ve just mentioned, here’s a visual guide:

 

"Don't wear fur because boobs"

“Don’t wear fur because boobs”

 

Apparently, Audis are breast shaped. "Get out me bra".

Apparently, Audis are breast shaped. “Get out me bra”.

 

While the sexual innuendo is just silly, the doll-like appearence of the woman is really disconcerting.

While the sexual innuendo is just silly, the sexdoll-like appearance of the woman is really disconcerting.

 

This is a perfume add, I shit you not.

This is a perfume add, I shit you not.

 

Dolce & Gangrape

Dolce & Gangbangrape

 

Body wash. Swer on me mum.

Body wash. Swer on me mum.

 

Well, at least this add speaks the truth. Still, I don't understand what Paris Hilton in a bathing suit has to do with increasing anyone's appetite.

Well, at least this add speaks the truth. Still, I don’t understand what Paris Hilton in a bathing suit has to do with increasing anyone’s appetite.

These are just a fraction of the thousands of “sexual-for-no-other-reason-than-to-sell” adds that we’re confronted with every single day.  The many issues surrounding this are pointed out in this wonderful presentation called “Killing Us Softly“, by Jean Kilbourne, who’s been researching the effects of advertising on women since the 1960′s (note: this is only a 4 minute clip – the actual presentation is much longer). The issue I would like to point out, however, is one that’s been getting quite a bit of attention lately: breastfeeding in public. When first presented with the idea of a woman whipping out her breasts in public, most people tend to get a bit uneasy, because it goes against social norm (apparently, in our heads, we wear burqas), but let’s consider the facts:

 

  • Breast feeding is the definition of natural.
  • It’s how babies eat.
  • It’s the only “real” purpose breasts serve (unless you count the arousing factor, which I know you do, pervs).
  • We are confronted with breasts everywhere and – as women – we ourselves have breasts, so why should we object to them?
  • OK, so maybe some of us have small breasts BUT THEY STILL COUNT!
  • Cah Cah has lil’ tatas. Kinda rhymes.

 

Girls with small boobs be like...

Girls with small boobs be like…

Looking at breast feeding from this angle, why are some women still thrown out of asked to leave cafés and other public spaces, simply for feeding their babies? Not only do we shame women for having to use formula, for daring to venture to the beach with their post baby bodies, for having postpartum depression, for being unable to shed the baby weight fast enough. Now we’re also shamed for breastfeeding because it “causes distress”? Why is it, that when breasts are used for their only functional purpose, people take offence? A few reasons. Firstly and predominantly because our bodies are not are own. We already know this from the sexual humiliation women are exposed to when we have active sex lives with multiple partners and are in control of our own sexuality. People take offence when women take charge of our own sexual nature and live out our own desires and fantasies. Our sexuality is not ours to enjoy, but societies’ to control. I can imagine something similar causing the “distress” from breastfeeding in public. People see breasts being used for something they are not regularly exposed to (like selling shoes, beer, or toolboxes to men), they witness a woman comfortable enough in her own skin (or a woman who doesn’t even think that it could be considered an issue by anyone) expose herself in an open public space, and (apparently) their whole world collapses. Men because they get boob-envy (BOOBS AREN’T FOR LITTLE KIDS!) and other women because our fragile self esteem and sense of utter self importance doesn’t allow other women to dress, act, or exist in a way that makes them more noticeable than ourselves. Perhaps we don’t like our partners looking at it – an irrational jealousy. Whether it’s any of the things I’ve mentioned or something else entirely, I’ve yet to be introduced to any decent supportive argument against breastfeeding in public. Do you have any?

 

One way of looking at it.

One way of looking at it.

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Yours,

 

me1.2

 

The Artistic Side of Selfies: A portrait of a Faroese artist

There’s a new kind of selfie spreading like wildfire: the animal selfie.

 

Kim Karduckshian

Kim Karduckshian

No, not that kind. Besides, the duck face selfie isn’t exactly a new invention. Maybe she can show us the doggy-selfie or do we have to get that on tape? What I’m talking about is…

 

Lookin' puuuurrfect

Lookin’ puuuurrfect

Definitely one kind of animal selfie, but no. What I’m talking about is much more refined, beautiful, awe inspiring, and artistic! Something along the lines of…

Faroese Puffin

“But first..” Faroese Puffin

 

Gannet

Gannet

 

The self-taught artist behind these amazing paintings is a young, Faroese woman called Ragnhild Kjærbo. She’s been causing quite a stir all over the Faroe Islands for quite a while and now, more recently, the excitement surrounding her paintings is going global. She’s been in the national Faroese newspapers due to all of the attention she has been receiving for her art, and Looking at her Facebook page it becomes very apparent just how popular she is. In the comment section of every photo, there are people asking if the paintings are for sale (they are, by the way), how much they cost, how they can get them, if she takes special orders (which she does) etc., and furthermore  the words “SOLD” appear in the comments of most of the photos as well.

Grey Goose

(*Trigger Alert for the alcoholics*) Grey Goose

 

A collage of different paintings, posted to Ragnhild's Facebook profile as a promotion for her first art exhibition.

A collage of different paintings, posted to Ragnhild’s Facebook profile as a promotion for her first art exhibition.

 

The paintings are mainly inspired by Faroese nature and wildlife, which is why there are so many birds. Birds are the most prevalent aspect of Faroese wildlife, second only to sheep. While seagulls are the bird you’ll probably see the most, the puffin and the oystercatcher – which is the national bird of the Faroe Islands – are probably the ones featured the most in art, music, and even souvenirs. Ragnhild’s paintings reflect the popularity of especially the puffin, with the bird being the most frequently painted, requested, and sold of her paintings.

 

Faroese Puffin, with the Faroese flag "Merkið" incorporated into the design. A very striking piece.

Faroese Puffin, with the Faroese flag “Merkið” incorporated into the design. A very striking piece.

 

Puffin couple fighting. At least, that's what's going on in my mind. Isn't that what couples do?

Puffin couple fighting. At least, that’s what’s going on my mind. Doesn’t look too different from human couples. She’s standing there nagging and he’s gone to the quiet space in his mind.

 

Aw look, he apologized.

Aw look, he apologized.

 

Mountains and cliffs are basically a rough summary of the geological layout of the Faroe Islands, and if you look at the paintings below, you’ll notice that the oystercatcher is standing on a patch of grass with mountains in the background, and the puffin looks like it’s standing on a cliff which is its natural habitat. Ragnhild incorporates not only the animals of the islands, but the beautiful shapes the islands are made up of, and brings them to life with paintings consisting of intricate patterns, and colors found in Faroese nature. In some cases she uses brighter and bolder colors, not necessarily natural to the given animal, but strikingly beautiful all the same, like in the painting of the ram (also visible below)

 

Faroese Oystercatcher - The national bird of The Faroe Islands

Faroese Oystercatcher – The national bird of The Faroe Islands

 

Faroese Puffin

Faroese Puffin

 

Ram

Ram

 

Like most things in life, the story behind what inspired Ragnhild to paint animal selfies is almost laughably simple:

 

It really wasn’t something I originally gave too much thought. My best friend and I occasionally send animal selfies [like the one of the cat up top] to each other, and I thought to myself “This could be fun to paint.” Then it sort of just went from there. I’ve been painting since before I can even remember, so I’m always looking for new ideas and inspiration, and this one happened to resonate with people, which I’m very grateful for. - Ragnhild

What started out as a fun idea quickly exploded when she uploaded the first “animal selfie” painting to her Facebook page. She’d made her Facebook page a few months earlier, when she decided to share her considerable talents with the world. Soon after, her page likes more than doubled and people started making request after request for paintings, including animal selfies of various animals, portrait paintings, and people wanting paintings of their children. Due to this heavy demand, she’s busy every day making paintings for people and the waiting list for a piece by Ragnhild is currently around 1 – 2 months.

 

Penguin

Guillemot

 

Eagle

Merlin

 

Watch Ragnhild make one of her beautiful pieces come to life in this video short video!

 

Ragnhild has an amazing talent for not only creating portraits of people with an amazingly exact physical likeness, but she manages to capture everything from their slightest expressions, to the “look” in someone’s eye, making her portraits appear vivid and alive, in ways that most artists are simply unable to.

Ronaldo

Christiano Ronaldo

 

Amanda Seyfried

Amanda Seyfried

 

David Beckham

David Beckham

 

Cheryl Cole. I love how, in this seemingly quite simple drawing, she manages to perfectly captures Cheryl's adorable cuteness that everyone loves.

Cheryl Cole. I love how, in this seemingly quite simple drawing, she manages to perfectly capture Cheryl’s adorable cuteness that everyone loves.

 

Ragnhild is very busy, but she shows no signs of slowing down anytime soon. On top of her day job in a boutique called STORM that sells various items by Faroese designers – including clothes and Ragnhild’s very own paintings – she has two young sons, and after they’ve gone to bed, she spends the rest of her available free time painting. In addition to that she has two upcoming art exhibition coming up, one in the Faroes and one in Denmark (dates and addresses below), so if you want to see these beautiful paintigs in person, you can go to one of these exhibitions, visit Storm Boutique in Saltangará, Faroe Islands, or if – you’re farther away than the Faroe Islands or Denmark – order a painting for yourself. You won’t regret it – I’m absolutely in love with mine!

 

Faroe Islands

Ribarhús

Í Støð 14

Fuglafjørður

Date: To be announced! Make sure you like Ragnhild’s Facebook page so you’ll know as soon as she does. She’s aware that she now has international interest, so she posts in English.

Website (Faroese)

 

Denmark

ARTsFÆLLER

Skattergade 14

5700 Svendborg

Denmark

Website (danish)

 

Ragnhild - the beautiful artist behind the beatiful paintings.

Ragnhild – the beautiful artist behind the beatiful paintings.

 

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Female Body Shaming

My dear readers! You know that I’m not one to hold back on calling out men for their bullshit but, fellow women, we must acknowledge our part of the problem. In many ways we are worse, at least when it comes to criticizing other women’s bodies (and our own). Yes, many men are utterly delusional, hitting on girls so far out of their league it’s more obvious than the plot (“twist”) of Shutter Island that nothing is going to happen, and it leaves you wondering just how much of an effect TV has on people’s sense of reality (I’m talking to you “According To Jim”). However, what I rarely see men do is comment on the bodies of famous women online with criticism if she looks good. An example (names and photos have been badly covered):

 

I've color coded the comments with colors indicating how "OK" they are. Yes, I decide if they're OK. My blog, my rules.

I’ve color coded the comments with colors indicating how “OK” they are. Yes, I decide if they’re OK. My blog, my rules.

 

As you can see, we have two lovely top comments. Then someone offers up the insightful “Something is off about this pictire”. Stop killing me with specificness. Then comes the well-meaning, but still luke warm yellow comment. While the message is true (let’s commend her life choices instead of tearing her apart), the comment about “plastic women” bothers me. If women want to be “fake” from top to bottom, that’s their choice and there’s no reason it should bother you, me, or anyone else. What does it have to do with you? Besides, no one in Hollywood is completely natural – not even Beyoncé.

Now to the last two red comments. The first one informs us that she preferred “old, thicke Beyoncé” and that she “looks lost” and is pretending to be… what exactly? There’s a word missing, but I’ll go out on a limb here and say “happy” is what she meant to say, considering the tabloid talks of divorce etc. Anyway, I don’t know what inside scoop she has, but to me this just looks like a photo of Beyoncé and it really doesn’t communicate anything except “Hi there, wazzap, I’m a photo of Beyoncé here to remind you that you don’t, have never and never will look this fierce”, and while you may have preferred the “thicker” Beyoncé, the one and only person who’s opinion counts obviously doesn’t: the man who owns her, her husband Jay-Z. OK, bad joke. Beyoncé is the only one whose opinion matters when it comes to her own weight and appearance in general. I mean, unless you’re so fat or skinny you’re having serious health issues and your doctor is all “Bitch, cut down/increase those calories or you’ll be deader than Eddie Murphy’s career” (which is the kind of dead not even Jesus would be able to come back from). But aside from the whole “die from bad weight” factor, it’s your own opinion about yourself that matters.

The final commentator – whilst claiming love for the picture and Beyoncé – can’t quite manage to keep weight related criticism to herself. Why is that an issue? Two reasons:

 

1. Beyoncé looks fine in this photo. She could be heavier and skinnier and still be healthy, happy, and just FINE, but this is where she is at, and she seems happy (I mean, unless you ask the second to last commentator with the inside scoop on Beyoncé’s pretend happiness).

 

2.

It's a loose-loose situation. Doomed if you do, doomed if you don't.

It’s a loose-loose situation. Doomed if you do, doomed if you don’t.

“WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME” is indeed a valid question. What do we want from celebrities? Each other? Ourselves? When will we realize that companies are making extreme amounts of money off our self hatred, and even more importantly when will we realize that we, women, are responsible for probably the greatest amount of body shaming that’s happening online and in real life. “Men want us to be this, men want us to be that, we have to look a certain way because men!”. It’s simply not true in most cases! In true Cah Cah fashion, let me demonstrate my point in a very approachable way.

 

Girls: Omg, she has no hips or ass, her waist is completely straight, her legs are weird. Boys: Hot.

Women: Omg, she has no hips or ass, her waist is completely straight, her legs are weird.
Men: Hot.

 

 

Girls: Omg, her hips are too wide. Her ass is TOO MUCH. Her boobs are, like, way too big. She's too short. She's only famous for SLUT. Boys: Hot.

Women: Omg, her hips are too wide. Her ass is TOO MUCH. Her boobs are, like, way too big. She’s too short. She’s only famous for SLUT.
Men: Hot.

 

 

Girls: Omg, she has no boobs. She's literally built like a boy, what even is that? Boys: Hot.

Women: Omg, she has no boobs. She’s literally built like a boy, what even is that?
Men: Hot.

Obviously there are women who think these women are hot, as well as men who say what these women say, but in general I find that the criticism and body shaming is much more female driven and that men look perplexed half the time when insecure women feel the need to point out any miniscule flaw they find in others. To combat this, we’d do well to remember a few things:

1. We are more than our bodies.

2. Other women are more than their bodies.

3. There are attributes much more rewarding and admirable than attractiveness.

4. Perfection doesn’t exist and beauty is subjective.

5. The Oprah Show started out as a trash talk show, like Ricki Lake and Jerry Springer.

 

The main example I used was Beyoncé because I happened to stumble upon that photo of her and read the comments, but body shaming is in no way limited to her. Surf the web, listen to girls talk, you’ll encounter this everywhere. However you look, it’s never good enough, so you might as well stop trying to make anyone but yourself happy. Even if you did ascend to some level of physical perfection, remember these words:

 

“You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” – Dita Von Teese

 

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“Barbaric Whale Murderers With Mercury Poisoned Minds”

As you may or may not know, a while back I wrote a blog post called Whale Killings In The Faroe Islands. I never thought it was something I’d write about and I definitely didn’t think I’d follow up on it, but as anyone who knows me (or reads my blog) is aware, I seldom pass up the opportunity to call out people when they’re wrong, ignorant, or just plain stupid, and did I read a lot of stupid today. Now, I’m sure a lot of anti-whaling individuals mean well, but every movement has its “Westboro Baptist Church” or “Al-Qaeda”, and it’s those people I’d like to address with this post. Reading through some of the comments, I am astonished at what’s being said, often to well-meaning individuals who try to present factual information in a polite and easily accessible manner. “Barbarians”, “morons”, “murderers”, and “sick” are just some of the words used to describe the Faroese people, simply because they manage to kill their own food, and one of their food sources happens to be free-roaming, non-threatened pilot whales. Allow me to demonstrate. Pictures and names have been removed (albeit very badly, don’t judge me) because I’m respectful, even if they’re not.

 

Really? They kill animals for food, and you draw the conclusion that they're all murderous individuals with desires to kill their own families? That escalated quickly.

Really? They kill animals for food, and you draw the conclusion that they’re all murderous individuals with desires to kill their own families? That escalated quickly.

 

 

No we don't, but surely being able to kill you own meat is something to be respected not ridiculed! If two people are going to eat, say, a cow, surely the one who manages to kill the cow themselves have earned the right to eat meat more than one who must get others to do it for them!

No we don’t, but surely being able to kill you own meat is something to be respected not ridiculed! If two people are going to eat, say, a cow, surely the one who manages to kill the cow themselves have earned the right to eat meat more than one who must get others to do it for them!

 

 

"Barbarians" hunt food? I don't see how being unable to face exactly what killing an animal is makes you better than someone who can kill their own food. Ever seen the inside of a slaughter house? Now that is *truly* barbaric.

“Barbarians” hunt food? I don’t see how being unable to face exactly what killing an animal is, makes you better than someone who can kill their own food. Ever seen the inside of a slaughter house? Now that is *truly* barbaric.

 

 

"Every" tool? A knife is used to cut their spinal cord. There's your "tools".

“Every” tool? A knife is used to sever their spinal cord. There’s your “tools”.

 

 

Clubs? What on earth is this nonsense? They're not clubbing baby seals (now THERE is a cause worth fighting! Redirect your energy at things that need attention more!)

Clubs? What on earth is this nonsense?

 

 

What on earth does that giraffe have to do with anything? It's two completely different scenarios, however, if you're interested in reading my opinion on the Marius The Giraffe incident here's the link: http://www.talesofcahcah.com/2014/02/marius-the-giraffe-and-the-reality-of-eating-meat.html

What on earth does that giraffe have to do with anything? It’s two completely different scenarios. However, if you’re interested in reading my opinion on the Marius The Giraffe incident here’s the link:
http://www.talesofcahcah.com/2014/02/marius-the-giraffe-and-the-reality-of-eating-meat.html

 

 

This person seems to grasp a very basic concept: most humans don't feel the same way about animals, as they do human beings. While the Faroese have great respect for the animals used for food, they are essentially food and will be killed. Unlike other countries, however, they aren't killed in horrific ways and in front of each other, but rather individually and quickly. Sometimes children attend. Why? So they can be taught to do the same one day, killing their own food, and doing it swiftly, effectively, and with the least stress to the animals as possible. Faroese people are very concerned about the wellfare of their animals right up until they are dead!

This person seems to fail to grasp a very basic concept: most humans don’t feel the same way about animals as they do human beings. While the Faroese have great respect for the animals used for food, they are essentially food and will be killed. Unlike other countries, however, they aren’t killed in horrific ways and in front of each other, but rather individually and quickly. Sometimes children attend. Why? So they can be taught to do the same one day, killing their own food, and doing it swiftly, effectively, and with the least stress to the animals as possible. Faroese people are very concerned about the welfare of their animals right up until after they are dead!

 

 

Calling a young woman, who very calmly and elequently explained what happens with the whales during a grind, an imbecile or liar is sadly not uncommon on pages about whale killing. I guess name calling is what they have to resort to when they can't argue with facts.

Calling a young woman, who very calmly and eloquently explained what happens with the whales during a grind, an imbecile or liar is sadly not uncommon on pages about whale killing. I guess name calling is what they have to resort to when they can’t argue with facts.

 

 

You talk about cutting open another human being, yet Faroese people are the "barbarians" and "psychopaths"? Nice.

You talk about cutting open another human being, yet Faroese people are the “barbarians” and “psychopaths”? Nice.

 

 

This was just one the stupid ones that was too funny to pass up. I don't think it needs any further explanation.

This was just one the stupid ones that was too funny to pass up. I don’t think it needs any further explanation.

 

 

Name calling, and a wish for the Faroese to starve with the world doing nothing to help. Well, if that's your hope, I've got great news for you: millions of people are starving (an estimated 842 million people struggle with hunger daily) as I'm typing this, and the world is just watching on without doing much to help. so if we were to starve the scenario you're describing is probably what would play out. Lucky you.

Name calling, and a wish for the Faroese to starve with the world doing nothing to help. Well, if that’s your hope, I’ve got great news for you: millions of people are starving (an estimated 842 million people struggle with hunger daily) as I’m typing this, and the world is just watching on without doing much to help. so if we were to starve the scenario you’re describing is probably what would play out. Lucky you.

 

 

The Faroese DO treat animals with love and respect, but to most people in the world animals are still considered food. While they are alive, however, Faroese animals have some of the best living conditions in the world, and they are slaughtered in ways inconceivable in most other countries due to the sheer care that is taken to ensure the animals don't experience any preventable suffering

The Faroese DO treat animals with love and respect, but to most people in the world animals are still considered food. While they are alive, however, Faroese animals have some of the best living conditions in the world, and they are slaughtered in ways inconceivable in most other countries due to the sheer care that is taken to ensure the animals don’t experience any preventable suffering

 

 

I kept this guy's name visible, because it was nice to see that there are people who understand what's going on in the world!

I kept this guy’s name visible, because it was nice to see that there are people who understand what’s going on in the world!

 

 

Who determines which animals are food and which animals aren't food? Cats and dogs are food in certain countries. It's social conditioning.

Who determines which animals are food and which animals aren’t food? Cats and dogs are food in certain countries. It’s social conditioning.

 

 

Nice to see someone has a logical mind. Of course, this person was Faroese.

Nice to see someone has a logical mind. Of course, this person was Faroese.

These were just a few examples out of literally hundreds. As you can see, the internet is full of misinformed people, but not only that: these people call the Faroese barbaric, murderous individuals, whilst simultaneously wishing for them to starve, to be cut open, calling them morons, imbeciles, liars, and making up theories about how they’d probably kill their own families if they got the chance. Furthermore, whale killing gets compared to something as tragic as the holocaust. The systematic mass torture and mass murder of Jews is being compared to killing whales for meat. Who are the true imbeciles? Who are the true heartless barbarians? I’ll let you decide for yourselves.

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“Women Against Feminism”

There is a new internet movement and it would make all the women that came before us turn in their graves. “Women Against Feminism” is a tumblr user that features images of women holding up signs stating why they don’t need feminism and they’re so cringeworthy they make watching bad stand-up seem tolerable. These women have absolutely no understanding of what feminism is. They’re apparently under the impression that feminism is for people who are “bitter and ugly inside and out, want “special treatment”, “like to be victimized”, and “don’t enjoy sex”. At first glance, this complete misunderstanding of what feminism is might seem amusing, and quite frankly it’s so wrong that it would be laughable, if it wasn’t so deeply disturbing, and more prevalent than that website suggest.

I got attitude from all corners when I first moved to England. I used the word “feminist” about myself, and they way the other girls looked at me was comparable to how I imagine they’d look had I told them I had a lethal disease that was transferable through just breathing the same air I did. It didn’t surprise me. We’d just had a conversation about rape culture, and I’d explained how bad it was here and they all disagreed, apparently because where they were from (other places in England) it was “much worse”. Yet even being aware of rape culture as a concept, they neglected to see how prevalent it was all around them just because it was even more prevalent in other places, and they still vehemently insisted that they “didn’t need feminism”. At first I (silently) excused them because they were after all a few years younger than me. Then I realized that at their age I was very much aware of women’s rights and indeed considered myself a feminist, and changed my mind. Let’s do a social experiment, antifeminist women.

 

The Non-Femininst Women Experiment

In this experiment, we’re going to create our own country. These are the rules (if you’re a woman):

1. You’re not allowed to vote.

2. Most of you have to stay at home.

3. If you do work , don’t expect to earn more than 3/4 of what your male colleagues earn even if you do more than they do.

4. Kidding, you’re not going to be doing what men do – that’s men’s jobs and women can’t do them.

5. If you’re sexually harassed by your male employers, you have no rights. Just enjoy the attention.

6. If you’re married, you’re not allowed to refuse your husband sex. Just be glad he still wants to touch you.

7. Sexual liberation? Forget it.

8. No contraception.

9. No abortion.

10. You’re not allowed to wear a bikini.

 

Bathing-Suits

Women having their bathing suits measured in the 1920′s.

11. In fact, you’re not allowed to wear anything deemed inappropriate by your husband or other male authority figures.

12. Yes, you should consider your husband a male authority figure.

13. Do you really want me to keep going?

 

In case you weren’t aware, this is what life looked like to women in a not-so-distant past. Those women got sick of it. Those women fought it. Those women were feminists, and it’s their legacy you’re tainting if you, as a woman, say that you don’t need feminism. It may be true that (in most countries) this is not what our lives look like anymore, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t still battles to fight. Victim blaming in cases of sexual assault, salary differences between men and women, and indeed the competition, jealousy, and hatred between women, just to name a few. I believe the last one is one of the reasons women insist they “don’t need feminism”.  We’ve been socially conditioned to believe that our worth is measured in how much male attention we can get and how much men like us, and what better way to make men like you, than to make sure they know you absolutely love them? If we can find worth within ourselves as the wonderful women we are, male attention and appreciation from desired individuals is something to be enjoyed, but having men constantly overstepping boundaries and then finding excuses for their behaviour and telling us we should just be happy that anyone desires us is rape culture. It’s oppressive, it’s anti-women, and it’s anti-feminist. Additionally, there are so many countries where women are still only a shadow of society, and while you might think you don’t need feminism, they still do.

 

If you want to read more about “Women Against Feminism” by people who are much more talented writers than I am, check out this article and this one that points out that apparently “Women Against Feminism” need men because jars. Let me just add, that feminism just means complete equality between the sexes, and therefore many, many wonderful men also identify as feminists. Feminism is not just for women, but – probably due to the “femi” in its title – people seem unable to grasp this concept. Do you believe that women and men are equally worthy? Then you are feminist.

 

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Proud feminist. Equality, y'all.

Proud feminist. Equality, y’all.

The Myth of the Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm

There’s an article written by a supposed feminist called “The Myth of the Vaginal Orgasm”, that claims there is no such thing as a vaginal orgasm – the clitoris is the only orgasm capable organ on a woman. It goes on to cite studies that were – unsurprisingly – conducted by men who found “no physiological evidence of orgasmic capability” inside a woman’s vagina. Any woman who has ever slept with a man knows what an underwhelming experience it can be, and is therefore as unbaffled by their conclusion as I am. It is a shame, however, that their claims are then backed by testimonies from women who have obviously never had an adequate lover. You might sit there thinking “I’ve had great sex, but I’ve never had a vaginal orgasm!” – you and I define great sex differently, then. Great sex is, in my opinion, when both parties are able to reach their maximum potential, and you my dear reader (if you’re female) are capable of so much more! You might not think you want any more. Fair enough. As women we’re taught from the age of 0 to accommodate a patriarchical society and a fragile male ego, and telling your lover that you’re just not being fully satisfied might seem like the ultimate blow (well, the negative version of an ultimate blow, that is), but are we not in essence doing our men a huge disservice when we lead them to believe they’re much better lovers than they actually are? And as great a disservice it might be to them, it is an infinitely greater disservice to ourselves. A lot of women go their entire lives never experiencing the full extent of pleasure that their bodies are capable of producing, not having a clue what they’re missing. Ignorance is bliss is a popular saying, however, some women only go, say, half their lives not knowing, and when they find out they realize how much time they’ve wasted. 45-year-old Jane gets divorced, starts dating again, and sleeps with sex connoisseur John. For the first time in her life she gets a vaginal orgasm. She’s spent a hypothetical 29 years of her life having a sex life that in essence is sub par. Why is this OK? In any case, I feel women should be able to make an informed decision as to whether or not their current sex life is satisfactory, and by informed I mean know this: vaginal orgasms are a real, separate, and for all intents and purposes, much better, stronger, and more satisfying orgasm than clitoral orgasms, and you can have them too. “Well if they’re real, of course I can have them too!” you might be thinking, and you’d be absolutely correct! There is, however, another myth surrounding vaginal orgasms that goes something along the lines of “only 30% of women can experience vaginal orgasms.” I’m not a medical doctor, but seeing as how a lot of them believe that vaginal orgasms don’t exist, I don’t think it disqualifies my words, and I’ll tell you that while of course there are physiological differences between women that might increase or decrease our sensitivity, how easily we orgasm etc., the idea that this difference should range from “penetrate-and-there” to “impossible” is completely ridiculous (unless you have some sort of medical condition, which I definitely would consider inability to orgasm to be).

 

On top of having unfulfilling sex lives, we’re taught to blame ourselves for the sexual inadequacies of men. “You need to learn how to let your head go.” “You need to learn to stop over thinking during sex.” There is nothing inherently wrong with those sentences, but they’re only half the story. Sex is first and foremost about communication, and in order to communicate both parties need to listen to each other. When desires have been or are being communicated, it’s nice to be with a man who knows how to get us out of our heads. Odds are, if a woman is spending her time in her head when she’s in bed with you doing the nasty, she’s bored(accurate example). But bad sex is not just boring – in some cases it can leave you feeling something very close to violated. When you agree to have sex with someone, be it a regular partner, friend, or complete stranger, surely it should be an enjoyable experience for both parties. When talking about the latter, that is hardly ever the case. All too often one night stands are unsatisfactory for the woman, and we’re taught that one night stands are just like that in general; it’s to be expected and accepted. But why? Surely there is no rule that says they can’t be enjoyable, even memorable, so why is it such a “fact” that one night stands are just unpleasurable for women in general? Are the men we sleep with once less obligated to put in an effort? I say no. You’re still allowing this person to use your body for their own pleasure, so why is it so much to ask for that in return? Why are women basically taught that we can’t expect to be satisfied from a one night stand? Any decent lover will make sure to satisfy their sexual partner, whether this is a partner they’ll have again or not. Have men stopped taking pride in their ability to satisfy a woman, or have we ourselves simply lowered the bar so much for them, in order to make sure that they are satisfied? One thing is for certain: speaking to women I know in preparation for writing this blog, it is very apparent that an enjoyable, orgasm from a one night stand is a rarity – for women, that is. There is no reason women shouldn’t be able to enjoy orgasms as often as men do. It might take us longer to get there, but why should that discourage you? There are so many things in life that are rushed, that we consider chores, things that we just have to get over with – why does sex have to one of them? If you’re just going to have sex for your own pleasure and not consider your partner’s pleasure at all, you’d be better off having sex by yourself, because having sex with yourself through another person’s body is violating them.

 

“Sex is about more than just having an orgasm!” This is true; it’s about having multiple orgasms. I joke (well, kind off). Yes, there is so much more to sex than having an orgasm, but it saddens me when having an orgasm becomes “a man’s thing”, and that is essentially the development we’ve seen. Women contend themselves to having orgasms every once in a while, but why? Why is your pleasure not equally important? If you as a woman are reading this and thinking “it’s not that important to me” ask yourself why that is, because odds are that his orgasm is very important to you, and that, my dear readers, is the essence of what being a woman has become.

 

Other women chip in

 

 I can verify that it’s probably THE most incredibly physical feeling that exists – and maybe also mental feeling considering that you just feel good and satisfied and comfortable.. total bliss and sometimes a little hysterical laughter.’

 

‘I used to think my sex life was great. I thought I was having great sex, being satisfied, and that I was “getting it good”, so to speak. Then I met him, and he made me see that I’d never truly had sex until I slept with him. I had my first vaginal orgasm with him. The first time we slept together he gave me several of them. When I think of all the time and energy I’ve wasted having “sex” with the guys before him, I shudder. And only one guy since has been able to come close. I wasn’t in love with him; he was just that good.’

 

‘It just leaves me feeling completely, utterly, and absolutely happy.’

 

‘I feel bad for the women who’ve contended themselves to “I just won’t have one.” What is the point of sex if you’re not going to experience it fully? It makes me sick to think about.’

 

‘It’s indescribably wonderful. You feel it all over your body! Your stomach tightens and cramps (a good kind of cramping) and – in my case – it tickles all the way down to my toes, unlike clitoral orgasms that are really localized.’

 

‘I’m confused – the one I just had 2 hours ago is supposedly “not real”?’ (When I told an acquaintance about my upcoming blog post)

 


 

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‘Do you know that there are eminent physiologists who say women have no physical basis for vaginal orgasm?’ ‘Then they don’t know much, do they?’ (Lessing, 1962, p. 200).

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