Hello dear readers! It’s been a while, I know. Let’s get to it!
if the Internet is to be believed, there is apparently no group of people as misunderstood, as targeted, as unfairly treated, and hated as straight, white males. Every article I ever read about people with actual issues, is always full of comments from straight, white males sharing their individual incident stories to try to devalue the very real, daily struggles that other people with real problems have. It’s sickening to read, but I guess it’s to be expected, living in a world where straight, white men are coddled not only by their mothers and peers, but society in general. This is not to say that straight, white males can’t come from horrible backgrounds, of course not, however, denying the inherent privilege in being a straigt, white male because you had a bad life is also wrong. Acknowledging privilege is acknowledging that no matter how bad your life is, it would probably be worse without those genetically given advantages. Now that we’ve established that I’m not saying that straight, white males can’t have horrible lives, let’s move on.
Men crying over sexism is like white people crying over racism (on behalf of themselves, mind you). It’s like heterosexuals crying over being sexually discriminated against. When religious people start crying over their “rights” being deemed less important (in regards to marriage equality laws for example). No one (intelligent) is buying it. Reading articles about women who’ve been harassed, there are always men all over the comment section having some sort of explanation ready for why these women’s feelings are invalid. Reading articles about racism, there are always white people (men, mostly) offering explanations as to how they experience “racism” at the hands of other “races”. Sorry dude, but when you can name and recall all of the specific incidences, that’s not what it is. Gender discrimination and racism are ways of life for the people suffering under them. They’re not something that happens rarely enough for examples to stand out. It’s everywhere, all the time. If you want someone to be sympathetic towards the struggles of being a white, heterosexual male, go talk to your mom. Do the rest of us a favour and acknowledge your white, heterosexual, able-bodied privilege, and stop invalidating the very real suffering of other people by telling stories about that one black, disabled, lesbian who was rude, in a way that propagates the idea that being a white, heterosexual, able-bodied man is anything but being born with a silver spoon (when it comes to societal privilege). You’re welcome.
On a different – but related – note: reading through the comment section of Bill Cosby rape allegation articles, one thing becomes very apparent: in cases of rape, women are to be blamed. One thought the woman could have prevented oral sex from taking place had she only thought to use her teeth, and another seemed to think that since they willingly accepted alcohol from him they were obviously party hoes (which apparently means it’s totally fine to rape them).
We all know women should know better than to accept drinks from men, because that’s how you get raped, yet at the same time how dare we think all men are creepy rapists? It’s not just “feminazis” that have double standards, Mr Patriarchy. We’re here saying men should be held accountable for raping us, while you insist it’s our own fault for accepting alcohol from men, yet demean us for our “feminazi” ways when we are suspicious of men in general because “all men aren’t rapists”. We can’t win.
“What could you have done differently..” is a question rape victims are often asked. Why don’t we ask the families of murder victims what they think their children/siblings/parents could have done to avoid being murdered? Oh right, because it’s bullshit.
I realize this post is a bit all over the place, but so am I. You know, it comes with being a man-hating feminazi, or whatever it is weak men like to label women who don’t want to be an extension of them. If you’d like to read a great article about why being against sexism isn’t the same as being anti-men, here’s a link. Here’s an excerpt:
“Feminism is about the equality of all genders, and conscious steps should be taken to actively include all genders.. ..yet repeatedly insisting that failing to prioritize men effectively invalidates your entire perspective on sexism and feminism paradoxically proves why we need to battle sexism and advocate feminism in the first place: the belief and sense of entitlement that everything should be about men first and foremost, all the time!”
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“If a woman has (the right to an abortion), why shouldn’t a man be free to use his superior strength to force himself on a woman? At least the rapist’s pursuit of sexual freedom doesn’t result in anyone’s death.” – Maine State Representative Lawrence Lockman